I’m joining in with Shannon’s Works-for-me Wednesday over at Rocks in My Dryer. For a multitude of solutions to a plethora of problems, stop by her blog.
For many, this tip will seem like a no-brainer, but I keep witnessing scenes between parent/caretaker and child that just scream out to me that too many of you don’t know this yet.
When you are in a situation where you need a child to do something, don’t ask them if they want to do it, tell them to do it.
Example: It is lunch time, you need the child to wash his hands. Don’t ask, “Johnny, do you want to wash your hands so we can eat lunch?” Because, you’re not really meaning to ask him if he wants to wash his hands, you want to tell him that he needs to wash his hands. So, tell him! “Johnny, it’s time to wash your hands.” If you get push back from Johnny about not wanting to wash his hands before lunch, you can deal with the issue of disobedience. Rather than trying to get him to say “yes” to a question that wasn’t really supposed to be a question.
Same goes for when you are in a store and it’s time to leave. Don’t ask Tiffany if she wants to go home – tell Tiffany, “Honey, it’s time to go.”
Ditto for potty-training Paul. Don’t ask Paul if he wants to go potty – tell Paul, “Hey, it’s time to go potty.”
Same thing for the kids in the Sunday school class. Don’t ask if they want to listen to the Bible story – tell them, “Children, it’s time to listen to today’s Bible story.”
Don’t ask, just tell – works for me!